You have been there for me no matter what I am going through. I love you, my dear friend, and I am so excited to share this special birthday with you. This day is going to be truly special and I am so excited.
you deserve the best birthday in the world and my goal is to give it to you. Happy Birthday and let’ get ready to celebrate. The party starts as soon as we are together.
On your birthday, I like to take some time and think about all the wonderful times we have had together. I’m thankful for our special adventures and all the things that we have done as friends and I look forward to making many more memories with you.
There are so many things about our friendship that I love. Your birthday is going to be the perfect time to celebrate your day and all that our friendship means to me. I look forward to showing you how much I care.
I can’t believe how lucky I am to have found a friend like you. You make every day of my life so special. It’s my goal to make sure your birthday is one of the most special days ever. I can’t wait to party it up. lol i wish.have all the fun without me.
love you
Tuesday, 7 October 2014
ANXIETY
So i guess we are all doing ok! my post law school life has been remarkable, i should apply for like a sleep contest or something because i am a "pro" now! :)
its about seven days to the release of our bar 2 results*sigh* trust me i have taken over from Joseph the dreamer from the HOLY BIBLE. CHAI! i have been dreaming sha o. something weird happens often, i observed that waiting for these results has somewhat affected the conversations i have with peeps!*hehehehe* rumors! gists! na only GOD know sha o!
Anyway we are all anxious but i suggest we keep believing that ALL WILL END WELL. In the mean time, get fixed, for those of us who sleep,sleep!,for those who work ,focus! ICC ABUJA can NEVER be complete without YOU.
Till next time. Am off to sleep!:)
its about seven days to the release of our bar 2 results*sigh* trust me i have taken over from Joseph the dreamer from the HOLY BIBLE. CHAI! i have been dreaming sha o. something weird happens often, i observed that waiting for these results has somewhat affected the conversations i have with peeps!*hehehehe* rumors! gists! na only GOD know sha o!
Anyway we are all anxious but i suggest we keep believing that ALL WILL END WELL. In the mean time, get fixed, for those of us who sleep,sleep!,for those who work ,focus! ICC ABUJA can NEVER be complete without YOU.
Till next time. Am off to sleep!:)
Thursday, 2 October 2014
UGLY BREAK UPS!!!
Breaking up is especially difficult when only one wants to end the relationship. The one who is left is in a great deal of emotional pain from the grief and loss. He or she also feels powerless to do anything about their circumstances. Often they do not know how to handle the pain, which feels unbearable and seems never ending. For some people, shifting into anger seems to alleviate their pain. Actually, anger just masks pain. But masking the pain may be preferable to feeling it. The pain does not go away; it just goes underground and influences behaviors in negative ways.
Sometimes breakups turn ugly. One or both parties start behaving in ways that are inappropriate, perhaps even frightening. Behaviors such as stalking, threatening verbally and physically, name calling, complaining to your friends/co-workers, making unwanted phone calls, sending unwanted text messaging and emails, damaging property, stealing from your partner and worse, make a breakup ugly.
Scenario 1) John finally ended his two year and half relationship with Mary after months of vacillating back and forth. It was not working out for him and he did not want to invest any more of himself in it. Mary was devastated and she pleaded with John to give her another chance. John’s resolve weakened and they did reconcile for a few months. But the same unpleasant dynamics between them repeated, so he ended it again. Mary refused to accept the breakup. She kept calling John and begging him to reconcile. She kept driving by his home. She left messages on his car. She called his friends trying to solicit their help. She sent him ecards, long hysterical emails and emotional text messages. John felt sorry for her and would take her calls and answer her messages. He kept explaining in a caring way that the relationship was over for him. When John was nice to Mary, her hopes for reconciliation increased. She tried harder to have contact with John. She knew that her behavior was harming what little relationship they had left, yet she could not stop herself. John’s compassion for her shifted into disgust. He felt badgered and victimized. He avoided all contact with her and after several months Mary gave up.
Scenario 2) After breaking up and reconciling five times, Judy decided to end her 4 year relationship with Marty for good. As before, Marty begged and pleaded with her to take him back. When she wouldn’t, Marty became angry and bitter. He started making phone calls and hanging up. He started threatening her. At first he would make statements such as ‘You better watch out.” Then the statements escalated into “I’m going to kill you.” Judy was frightened and did not know what to do. She was afraid to talk to her parents. She talked to all of her friends trying to figure out what to do. She talked to him and told him that he was frightening her, but it did no good. Sometimes he would switch from bitterness to apology but when she would not agree to give him another chance he shifted back into anger and rage. He wanted her to hurt as much as he was hurting. When he saw the fear in her eyes and heard the fear in her voice, he knew he was still able to have an impact on her. It was not the impact he wanted to have but it was better than feeling powerless. One time when he saw her going into a pub with another guy he keyed her car. The destructive action gave him some relief from the pain of seeing her with another guy. (All scenarios are fictitious).
Sometimes breakups turn ugly. One or both parties start behaving in ways that are inappropriate, perhaps even frightening. Behaviors such as stalking, threatening verbally and physically, name calling, complaining to your friends/co-workers, making unwanted phone calls, sending unwanted text messaging and emails, damaging property, stealing from your partner and worse, make a breakup ugly.
Scenario 1) John finally ended his two year and half relationship with Mary after months of vacillating back and forth. It was not working out for him and he did not want to invest any more of himself in it. Mary was devastated and she pleaded with John to give her another chance. John’s resolve weakened and they did reconcile for a few months. But the same unpleasant dynamics between them repeated, so he ended it again. Mary refused to accept the breakup. She kept calling John and begging him to reconcile. She kept driving by his home. She left messages on his car. She called his friends trying to solicit their help. She sent him ecards, long hysterical emails and emotional text messages. John felt sorry for her and would take her calls and answer her messages. He kept explaining in a caring way that the relationship was over for him. When John was nice to Mary, her hopes for reconciliation increased. She tried harder to have contact with John. She knew that her behavior was harming what little relationship they had left, yet she could not stop herself. John’s compassion for her shifted into disgust. He felt badgered and victimized. He avoided all contact with her and after several months Mary gave up.
Scenario 2) After breaking up and reconciling five times, Judy decided to end her 4 year relationship with Marty for good. As before, Marty begged and pleaded with her to take him back. When she wouldn’t, Marty became angry and bitter. He started making phone calls and hanging up. He started threatening her. At first he would make statements such as ‘You better watch out.” Then the statements escalated into “I’m going to kill you.” Judy was frightened and did not know what to do. She was afraid to talk to her parents. She talked to all of her friends trying to figure out what to do. She talked to him and told him that he was frightening her, but it did no good. Sometimes he would switch from bitterness to apology but when she would not agree to give him another chance he shifted back into anger and rage. He wanted her to hurt as much as he was hurting. When he saw the fear in her eyes and heard the fear in her voice, he knew he was still able to have an impact on her. It was not the impact he wanted to have but it was better than feeling powerless. One time when he saw her going into a pub with another guy he keyed her car. The destructive action gave him some relief from the pain of seeing her with another guy. (All scenarios are fictitious).
TOXIC FRIENDSHIPS!!!!
Have you ever felt as if your friend was verbally abusive to you? Verbal abuse (sometimes also referred to as emotional abuse) is generally seen in parental or romantic partner relationships, but it can also rear its ugly head in friendships, too.
Verbal Abuse Between Friends
At the heart of abuse is a desire to control the other person. Put downs and insults are meant to tear someone down emotionally, so the person will be less likely to seek out other friends or do activities without the abuser. Verbal abuse can also escalate to things like isolation, where someone tries to prevent you from meeting new people or seeing your current friends.
Verbal abuse is constant over time, and much different than regular friendship conflict. The key to defining verbal abuse in friendships is consistent negative vocal behavior.
In other words, it isn't when you and a friend have an argument (and may say hurtful things) or when a friend is moody (and may snap at you.) Friendships go through ups and downs, and sometimes people disagree and even behave poorly, so it's important to understand the difference between a "regular fight between friends" and verbal abuse.
Signs of Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse is meant to tear you down emotionally by trying to belittle or even frighten you. If you think your friend might be verbally abusive, watch for these signs:
Telling you that you're stupid all the time
Saying that you won't be able to make new friends
Calling you names (fatty, dummy, moron)
Putting down the good things that happen to you
Blaming you when things go wrong
Making fun of your accomplishments
Telling other people negative things about you
Telling embarrassing things about you in front of other people
Verbal Abuse Between Friends
At the heart of abuse is a desire to control the other person. Put downs and insults are meant to tear someone down emotionally, so the person will be less likely to seek out other friends or do activities without the abuser. Verbal abuse can also escalate to things like isolation, where someone tries to prevent you from meeting new people or seeing your current friends.
Verbal abuse is constant over time, and much different than regular friendship conflict. The key to defining verbal abuse in friendships is consistent negative vocal behavior.
In other words, it isn't when you and a friend have an argument (and may say hurtful things) or when a friend is moody (and may snap at you.) Friendships go through ups and downs, and sometimes people disagree and even behave poorly, so it's important to understand the difference between a "regular fight between friends" and verbal abuse.
Signs of Verbal Abuse
Verbal abuse is meant to tear you down emotionally by trying to belittle or even frighten you. If you think your friend might be verbally abusive, watch for these signs:
Telling you that you're stupid all the time
Saying that you won't be able to make new friends
Calling you names (fatty, dummy, moron)
Putting down the good things that happen to you
Blaming you when things go wrong
Making fun of your accomplishments
Telling other people negative things about you
Telling embarrassing things about you in front of other people
I LOVE THE AKINBOROS'
i believe in family. It’s a six-letter word, with a trillion times the meaning. It’s who we came from, who we live with, who we love. They help shape our lives with who we are today and who we will grow to be.
Family may not just be blood relatives. It can be friends, people who you care about, or the people you are in a group with. I share memories and moments with family that we will remember forever.
My family is perfectly imperfect. We might not be the closest or the most loving family in the world, but we still care. We fight, argue, and even say that we hate each other at times. But it is the small things, the kindness and love in our hearts, when we say and do these things that bring us together. Family is the essence of life. Without them, who and where would I be? A twenty something year old girl with no one to talk to, no one to be with, no one to love. Alone in life, with no one to share memories with as I grow up. Even the bad memories or the memories that are not so good are still special. It helps me grow stronger daily.
When I was younger, and still some today, my family would get together and have dinners about once a month. It would be a bonding time for us, when we would reflect on the day. We would talk about school, friends, and everything else. It was a time for us to come together and remember who we are as a family and just enjoy each other’s company.
My mom is probably has the biggest job in the family. She has to take care of four kids with my dad.She cooks, cleans, and buys us things. I know it is not easy at times, but we make it work. My brother, sister, and I fight all the time. We really do love and care about each other, we just don’t exactly know it yet.
My family fights, we have fun, and we love each other. Family is the essence of life. This I believe. share your family stories with me.
send your write ups to akinboroy@gmail.com
keep loving each other. xxx
Family may not just be blood relatives. It can be friends, people who you care about, or the people you are in a group with. I share memories and moments with family that we will remember forever.
My family is perfectly imperfect. We might not be the closest or the most loving family in the world, but we still care. We fight, argue, and even say that we hate each other at times. But it is the small things, the kindness and love in our hearts, when we say and do these things that bring us together. Family is the essence of life. Without them, who and where would I be? A twenty something year old girl with no one to talk to, no one to be with, no one to love. Alone in life, with no one to share memories with as I grow up. Even the bad memories or the memories that are not so good are still special. It helps me grow stronger daily.
When I was younger, and still some today, my family would get together and have dinners about once a month. It would be a bonding time for us, when we would reflect on the day. We would talk about school, friends, and everything else. It was a time for us to come together and remember who we are as a family and just enjoy each other’s company.
My mom is probably has the biggest job in the family. She has to take care of four kids with my dad.She cooks, cleans, and buys us things. I know it is not easy at times, but we make it work. My brother, sister, and I fight all the time. We really do love and care about each other, we just don’t exactly know it yet.
My family fights, we have fun, and we love each other. Family is the essence of life. This I believe. share your family stories with me.
send your write ups to akinboroy@gmail.com
keep loving each other. xxx
Sunday, 28 September 2014
HAPPY SUNDAY GUYS
Its the LAST sunday of the month of SEPTEMBER, I tell you there are so many things to be thankful for! life,family,friends the list is endless. I am particularly grateful for mercy during this month,GOD IS GOD BEST BELIEVE THAT. I want you to always remember to thank HIM for his unflinching LOVE AND MERCY. LASTLY,LETS PRAY FOR NIGERIA.*no jokes*
Keep loving yourself and eachother.
xoxo
Keep loving yourself and eachother.
xoxo
Friday, 26 September 2014
TRIBUTE!
Most people often wonder what is the essence of life, if a man is but to live and die at an appointed time. This is because it is known that death is an inevitable visitor that must come and most at times it comes unexpectedly to separate us from our loved ones, wealth, properties among others. Therefore, there is need for people to wonder the essence of life, if life is like an unstable delicate thread that can cut at anytime from any point. What is the meaning of life? People have different answers to this question because to some people life may mean to make wealth and have properties. While to others it may mean to have fun while the life lasts. Few people may see life as a time to serve God and humanity.
Although life started at the time of birth in an unconscious state and ends at the time of death in an unconscious state but at death men are usually buried within a confined space in the ground not minding their wealth, properties, or status in the society. Most men lived, then died, were buried, and forgotten. No wonder King Solomon exclaimed, “Vanity, upon vanity, all is vanity.” Then Paul, the apostle, recognized this fact so he realized that he came to earth with nothing and shall depart with nothing. To Paul “to live is Christ and to die is gain.” Paul can only say this if he is among the few that came to realize that there is something more than life, itself, therefore death is not an end but only a beginning to something greater for those that earn it. No wonder he also said, “In him I live, move, and have my being.” There is need to live a comfortable and a fulfilled life but most men are held by the shackles of this world so they could not think of or see something higher than the things of the earth. That is why many have lived, died, and are forgotten while only few men had continued to live even though they be dead. This is because these few men spent their lives in service to God and humanity. They are those that gave humanity new beginning and new reasons to live in unity, justice, love, and harmony. These few men had dreams which they, at first, saw and had alone so they carried its pains, struggles, and difficulties alone but later and today many men have joined in their dreams because they now understood the meaning and need of those once lonely dreams. In those dreams you will find the dream of your liberty and the liberty of your nation. In those dreams you will find the dream for your right, justice, equity, love, peace, and religious tolerance. In those dreams you will find the dream to end slavery and racism among others. That is why I still say that it is a shame that men are divided by their religious belief just as they were once divided by the color of their skin. This is because many have failed to learn from history even from their own history, pains and struggles. Let us remember that God had always used people to bring changes in due time. No new beginning came easily because all came in pains just as birth is in pains. This life has no meaning when we live it empty without good purpose and dream for a better future for all humanity and target something higher than the physical.
Therefore, as many that are still wondering the essence of life; its essence maybe what we can do for God and Humanity with the life that we have now. It is only when we have done something good with our life that we can say, “yes I live” and we given our life and the life of others a meaning.
RIP ADEMOLA TAOFEEK OJEBIYI "OJEBZ" FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS
Although life started at the time of birth in an unconscious state and ends at the time of death in an unconscious state but at death men are usually buried within a confined space in the ground not minding their wealth, properties, or status in the society. Most men lived, then died, were buried, and forgotten. No wonder King Solomon exclaimed, “Vanity, upon vanity, all is vanity.” Then Paul, the apostle, recognized this fact so he realized that he came to earth with nothing and shall depart with nothing. To Paul “to live is Christ and to die is gain.” Paul can only say this if he is among the few that came to realize that there is something more than life, itself, therefore death is not an end but only a beginning to something greater for those that earn it. No wonder he also said, “In him I live, move, and have my being.” There is need to live a comfortable and a fulfilled life but most men are held by the shackles of this world so they could not think of or see something higher than the things of the earth. That is why many have lived, died, and are forgotten while only few men had continued to live even though they be dead. This is because these few men spent their lives in service to God and humanity. They are those that gave humanity new beginning and new reasons to live in unity, justice, love, and harmony. These few men had dreams which they, at first, saw and had alone so they carried its pains, struggles, and difficulties alone but later and today many men have joined in their dreams because they now understood the meaning and need of those once lonely dreams. In those dreams you will find the dream of your liberty and the liberty of your nation. In those dreams you will find the dream for your right, justice, equity, love, peace, and religious tolerance. In those dreams you will find the dream to end slavery and racism among others. That is why I still say that it is a shame that men are divided by their religious belief just as they were once divided by the color of their skin. This is because many have failed to learn from history even from their own history, pains and struggles. Let us remember that God had always used people to bring changes in due time. No new beginning came easily because all came in pains just as birth is in pains. This life has no meaning when we live it empty without good purpose and dream for a better future for all humanity and target something higher than the physical.
Therefore, as many that are still wondering the essence of life; its essence maybe what we can do for God and Humanity with the life that we have now. It is only when we have done something good with our life that we can say, “yes I live” and we given our life and the life of others a meaning.
RIP ADEMOLA TAOFEEK OJEBIYI "OJEBZ" FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS
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