Signs of Emotional Immaturity
We all have bad days and at times have our own individual temper tantrums. Sometimes, we simply feel bored and need to look for something to do. But for some people, these traits can get in the way of having a good relationship. Consider the following signs of emotional immaturity:
Emotional Volatility: This generally refers to the tendency for your emotions to get out of your control. Review the list below and if you notice one of more of these traits in yourself or someone you care about, emotional volatility may be a problem:
• temper tantrums, like screaming, yelling, breaking things or hitting others
• getting upset extremely easily, having a low frustration level
• responses out of proportion, that is, making a mountain out of a mole hill
• inability to take criticism, rather taking it too personally or taking yourself too seriously
• extreme jealousy,
• unwillingness to forgive,
• unpredictable fluctuation of moods
Lack of Independence: People who have a balance of independence vs dependence are both relatively self-reliant and cooperative with other people. An unhealthy dependence has the following characteristics:
• too reliant on others for things you can do for yourself
• needing someone around all the time
• not having your own opinions, or being willing/able to express them
• being very easily influenced by others
• prejudging other people
Constant Attention and Gratification Seeking: Emotionally immature people spend a lot of time and energy looking for attention and gratification from other people. This is characterized by:
• superficial values
• loyalty that lasts only as long as the person views the relationship as "useful"
• needing immediate gratification which may result in financial or personal problems
• thoughtless and impulsive behavior
Extreme self-centeredness: Self-centered people are often viewed as selfish. Usually, this suggests having low self-esteem, self-centred people can be extremely competitive, make unreasonable demands, are constantly preoccupied with themselves, seek out positive feedback or sympathy relentlessly, and don't tend to accept responsibility for anything.
In summary, the emotionally immature person can't understand the needs and feelings of others, and therefore have a difficult time being a partner or a parent.
Tuesday 23 September 2014
HOLD UP! I NEED YOU TO BREATHE
EBOLA exists. if you think it doesnt check in on the left hand side of YABA.
I entered "danfo" recently! (for those who dont know what that is,i mean commercial bus in lagos) everybody in the bus became a suspect. I just did not stop sanitizing my hands and arms everytime i had a contact with persons in the bus especially the conductor, he was the biggest suspect to me. The worst part is you have to surrender yourself to the federal or state government in order to be "quarantined" oyinbo"big grammar".
My friend Okoya T. told me nobody welcomed him in his new church somewhere in port harcourt because of the fear of this horrible disease. My other friends are freaking out! Ebola scares us all! but my question is this,if your partner is positive
how can you show him or her that you love him or her? HIV/AIDS beta pass EBOLA BUT NONE GOOD SHA*chewing bitterleaf and sipping sprite*.
Goodnight.
I entered "danfo" recently! (for those who dont know what that is,i mean commercial bus in lagos) everybody in the bus became a suspect. I just did not stop sanitizing my hands and arms everytime i had a contact with persons in the bus especially the conductor, he was the biggest suspect to me. The worst part is you have to surrender yourself to the federal or state government in order to be "quarantined" oyinbo"big grammar".
My friend Okoya T. told me nobody welcomed him in his new church somewhere in port harcourt because of the fear of this horrible disease. My other friends are freaking out! Ebola scares us all! but my question is this,if your partner is positive
how can you show him or her that you love him or her? HIV/AIDS beta pass EBOLA BUT NONE GOOD SHA*chewing bitterleaf and sipping sprite*.
Goodnight.
COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS!!!
The little things
Do you say a warm good morning to your mate when you first wake up, or roll your eyes and complain about how many times she hit the snooze button? When you suggest a movie, does your partner discuss it with you or does he put down your suggestion? Over time, these relatively brief exchanges add up to form the basis of a relationship.
Paying attention to the small moments and investing them with attention and importance can make a big difference toward a couple’s overall satisfaction in their relationship.
After the honeymoon
When people date, they tend to spend a lot of time and energy on getting to know one another, talking and listening, making each other feel good with favors and compliments, holding hands, having sex, and finding fun and creative activities to try together. Naturally, all this attention creates closeness and a foundation for a bigger commitment. Once that commitment is made, however, priorities may change with responsibilities at work, starting a family, or simply falling into a predictable routine.
Making or scheduling time to connect both emotionally and physically—much in the same way you did when you were first dating—is an important way to maintain and grow your relationship.
Take care of yourself
Stress can tax the healthiest relationships. Whether it’s a new baby, financial pressures, job changes, or the day-to-day grind, one of the best things you can do for your relationship is take time to manage your own stress in healthy ways. When you do this, it’s easier to be supportive of your partner. Tapping into social support is one of the most important ways to manage stress.
Researchers have found that being able to talk about your problems—even ordinary stresses and strains—with friends as well as with your partner can help protect your relationship
Do you say a warm good morning to your mate when you first wake up, or roll your eyes and complain about how many times she hit the snooze button? When you suggest a movie, does your partner discuss it with you or does he put down your suggestion? Over time, these relatively brief exchanges add up to form the basis of a relationship.
Paying attention to the small moments and investing them with attention and importance can make a big difference toward a couple’s overall satisfaction in their relationship.
After the honeymoon
When people date, they tend to spend a lot of time and energy on getting to know one another, talking and listening, making each other feel good with favors and compliments, holding hands, having sex, and finding fun and creative activities to try together. Naturally, all this attention creates closeness and a foundation for a bigger commitment. Once that commitment is made, however, priorities may change with responsibilities at work, starting a family, or simply falling into a predictable routine.
Making or scheduling time to connect both emotionally and physically—much in the same way you did when you were first dating—is an important way to maintain and grow your relationship.
Take care of yourself
Stress can tax the healthiest relationships. Whether it’s a new baby, financial pressures, job changes, or the day-to-day grind, one of the best things you can do for your relationship is take time to manage your own stress in healthy ways. When you do this, it’s easier to be supportive of your partner. Tapping into social support is one of the most important ways to manage stress.
Researchers have found that being able to talk about your problems—even ordinary stresses and strains—with friends as well as with your partner can help protect your relationship
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